Violence is a behavioral reaction to negative emotions. Anger, greed, jealousy, insecurity, fear, lust and many other negative emotions can get out of hand and by acting out on them, one resorts to violence in order to calm the anxiety of not being able to deal with the negative emotions at the first place.
The trail of negative emotions feeds from cumulating negative thoughts that build up over time. It hurts to have negative thoughts and feelings. It also hurts to act upon these negative thoughts and feelings. That is why the circle of Negative thoughts, negative emotions, anxiety and violence never ends if not broken.
There is no win or gain in violence. It hurts the perpetrators and the victims quite the same way although they may feel it and present it differently. It is a double edged sword. It feeds into more negative feelings and create more violence. The violence source feeds from the result and the result feeds from the source, the saddest vicious cycle of human history. The healthy way is to stop the negative trail of thoughts and avoid build up of negative thinking habits.
The disturbing negative feelings can be tracked by paying attention to tense body sensations and looking into the source of negative emotions that are causing these tense body sensations. Every step counts, let us all get on to this path of Non Violence and see the results together.