What defines us? Our genes? Our experiences? Our character, culture or religion? Our abilities or our disabilities? or our Pain? When we think about our body, we think of My hand, My leg, My eye, etc. When it comes to our mental capacities we think of words like my culture, my ideas, my decisions, etc. When we look closer, we can see that our thought process is built based on duality of me and my. It means that we consider ME different from all MY related entities. This is a very helpful mechanism because when we have any of MY related entities, it is considered as an addition to our strength and when we lose any of these entities, we feel the separation of Me and My. I may lose MY eye but Me is still here. It is helpful to separate My problems and losses from ME. In this process, the entity of ME does not allow self to be defined by the problems and losses. Problems and losses may come and go, but ME is not defined by them. This is the reason why we should not allow our Pain to define us. DON’T LET YOUR PAIN DEFINE YOU.